When you are less mature in your thinking it is very easy to believe that life is one thing or the other, like people are either telling the truth or they’re lying and that’s just all there is to it! There are normally three versions of the truth,[…]

I’m going to be talking to you about when perfectionism might not be doing you any favours. The downside of being a perfectionist is that it does create additional pressure on you. There are times when that might be useful because stress can be something that really motivates[…]

I am going to be teaching you my three top tips on how to stop an argument. This is not so much about avoiding an argument this is more about how to stop an argument once it’s already got started. Number one is that your going to want[…]

I’m going to be discussing about how to avoid comparing yourself with others making yourself feel rubbish. If you are someone who is constantly getting sucked into the world of comparing yourself to other people and making yourself feel bad about it. Firstly, let me say that making[…]

Let’s talk about how you can turn the things that make you feel uncomfortable, into things that are just naturally normal everyday things! In my therapy clinic in Hertfordshire, we often hear from young people who have difficulties in transitioning from a world where your parents take a[…]

Why it is that sometimes we desire to be different from everybody else and sometimes that might feel a little bit uncomfortable? What you might not know is that this is a perfectly normal pattern that all human beings rotate throughout during their lives.  When we start out[…]

I’m going to ask you to do the biggest psychological stretch that you’ve ever been asked to do because this month I’m focusing on behaviour. I know from my work with families and young people in Hertfordshire, that often when there are behavioural problems in a family the[…]

How do you make good apologies? I know I have spoken to you before about certain words that you may want to use (and particular words that you may want to avoid) when you are negotiating with people. Apologizing is not that dissimilar to negotiation, except there needs[…]