Stop Being a Perfectionist!

I’m going to be talking to you about when perfectionism might not be doing you any favours. The downside of being a perfectionist is that it does create additional pressure on you. There are times when that might be useful because stress can be something that really motivates[…]

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How to Stop an Argument

I am going to be teaching you my three top tips on how to stop an argument. This is not so much about avoiding an argument this is more about how to stop an argument once it’s already got started. Number one is that your going to want[…]

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Getting Rid of Anxiety

I’m going to be sharing with you some more tips around overcoming anxiety. I want to share with you some stuff that really works more as a long term plan for getting yourself out of an anxious state. The very first thing is that you need to start[…]

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How to Talk About Problems: Children and Young People

I’m going to be sharing with you how to talk about your problems and I will also be giving you some strategies to make you feel more comfortable about talking about your problems and getting it off your chest without feeling embarrassed about it. When it comes to[…]

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Using Anger for Positive Power

Firstly, we’re going to make it clear that anger is not necessarily a bad thing. It’s very often used in negative situations which makes it seem like a bad thing but as is the case with all of your various different emotions none of them are actually bad[…]

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Being Unique

Why it is that sometimes we desire to be different from everybody else and sometimes that might feel a little bit uncomfortable? What you might not know is that this is a perfectly normal pattern that all human beings rotate throughout during their lives.  When we start out[…]

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Change Your Behaviour

I’m going to ask you to do the biggest psychological stretch that you’ve ever been asked to do because this month I’m focusing on behaviour. I know from my work with families and young people in Hertfordshire, that often when there are behavioural problems in a family the[…]

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Saying Sorry

How do you make good apologies? I know I have spoken to you before about certain words that you may want to use (and particular words that you may want to avoid) when you are negotiating with people. Apologizing is not that dissimilar to negotiation, except there needs[…]

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Growing Resilience

A lot of parents often bring their young people to see me at my therapy clinic in Hertfordshire when they are struggling with the problems and challenges that life often throws at us. They are in need of some resilience boosting. But what does that actually mean? Resilience[…]

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Stop Saving People

Today I want to speak to you about that habit that you might have of taking on other people’s nonsense. Sometimes you, young people, you are so caring and you are so good at problem-solving that you end up taking on other people’s stuff! You might have a[…]

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