Let’s be real – chatting to adults about difficult things can feel like navigating a minefield. Whether it’s mental health, bullying, or family problems, you might worry they’ll overreact, not understand, or worse, dismiss you entirely. But keeping tough stuff bottled up usually makes it heavier. As a **child therapist** in **Hertfordshire** running NLP4Kids, here’s what I’ve learned to help young people have these conversations.

**Pick your moment.** Springing a serious talk on a parent while they’re rushing to work? Probably not ideal. Try: “Can we chat later when you’ve got time? It’s something important to me.” This gives them a heads-up to listen. Timing is key – choosing a moment when they’re less distracted can make a big difference in how the conversation goes.

**NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)** has a great concept called “rapport” – basically, getting on the same wavelength. Mirroring their body language (subtly!) or starting with something you agree on can make the conversation flow better. For example: “I know you want me to do well in school, but lately, I’ve been feeling overwhelmed.” This shows you understand their perspective while also expressing your own.

If face-to-face feels too intense, write it down. A letter or text can give you time to organise your thoughts – and them time to process before responding. Many young people I work with in **North London**, **St Albans**, and **Hemel Hempstead** find this approach much less daunting. Even starting with a journal can help you figure out what you want to say.

Not all adults will react perfectly. Some might get emotional or go straight into “fix it” mode. Try not to take it personally – it often comes from care, even if it’s clumsily expressed. If the first person you talk to doesn’t quite hear you, don’t give up. Another family member, teacher, or professional might be better at listening. At our **child therapy** clinic in **Hertfordshire**, we often help children navigate these tricky conversations through **hypnotherapy for children** and coaching techniques.

It’s also worth remembering that some topics take time. You might not get the response you hoped for right away, and that’s okay. Be patient – people sometimes need a little time to process what you’ve shared.

Practice **active listening** when they respond. Show you’re engaged by nodding or repeating what you’ve heard. This builds connection and helps the conversation feel mutual.

You absolutely deserve support 💛. A free initial consultation with an NLP4Kids **child therapist** – available in person or **online via Zoom** – could help you practise communication skills or explore other emotional support options if talking at home feels stuck.

Asking for help isn’t a weakness – it’s one of the bravest things you can do 💬. Everyone deserves to be heard and understood. You’re not alone in this journey.

And remember, take care of *you* along the way. Do the things that make you feel calm, happy, and grounded – whether that’s painting, running around outside, or playing your favourite music 🎨⚽🎧.

Talking about difficult topics can be challenging, but it’s a vital part of keeping your mental health strong. There *are* people ready to listen – and help.

By Gemma Bailey

Therapy for Children & Teens